Words of Wisdom to Future Brides
By: Lindsay Hoffman
Most brides dream of the day they’ll get married. The day is planned out perfectly in their mind- where it will be, what food will be served, the first song they’ll dance to as husband and wife, the decorations, who they’ll invite- the list goes on and on!
Because weddings have been idolized as “the best day of your life,” there’s an unrealistic expectation that a wedding must be perfect, but that expectation of perfection comes with a truckload of stress.
So to put your mind at ease and reduce the stress of wedding planning, we gathered up some insight from brides who’ve already had their wedding day.
You know how when someone says, “What could go wrong?” Something is guaranteed to go wrong, or at the very least not go the way you planned it. Don’t sweat the small (or big) stuff that happens during the wedding.
Years down the road you’re not going to care that you received the wrong flowers, it rained on your wedding day, or that a family member made an extremely long and awkward toast at the reception. On your wedding day, remember the reason you are there: to share and celebrate the love you found with your significant other.
When so much planning and organization go into planning a wedding, you may find yourself overwhelmed and consumed with every last detail, especially on your wedding day! You want all your hard work to pay off, so you stress every day leading up to the wedding date doing your best to make sure everything is perfect.
While planning and hosting a wedding can be stressful, don’t let those feelings overwhelm you and prevent you from enjoying it. After all, it is one of the best days of your life, so stop freaking out about scenarios of what could happen and have a good time! It might be wise to appoint someone in your wedding party to take on certain responsibilities, or hire a wedding planner if you can afford it, so you can live in the moment and have fun with the love of your life.
When Michele first got married, she went all-out with the celebration.
“We had a reception hall, balloon arches, buffet dinner, church wedding. We went on a week-long honeymoon in Quebec City. We lasted five years and rented a townhouse for our home. We would have been better off saving the money and working on our marriage.”
Unfortunately, the first marriage didn’t last. So for her second wedding, she decided to have a DIY wedding and says she was much happier with how it turned out.
“My ex and I did it ourselves with a Renaissance theme. It was the best wedding and a wonderful ceremony. I loved my Renaissance-themed wedding and doing it ourself was cheaper.”
Michele’s second marriage lasted 10 years. In hindsight, Michele thinks she paid too much attention to one day versus the day-to-day life that comes after marriage. Her piece of advice to future brides is to save that money for a house or future expenses in your marriage. That way, the day-to-day stress of money is less than what it would have been if you had spent thousands of dollars on a wedding.
If you’ve been to a wedding reception, you know how late those parties go. Now imagine how you feel the next day after a late night of dancing, eating, drinking. Chances are the bride and groom are going to feel the same way you do: exhausted.
Don’t schedule a flight for your honeymoon the day after your wedding. You’ll both be cranky and tired from the night before, which doesn’t mix well with traveling. Schedule your departure for a day or two after the reception, and enjoy the night without the stress of travel plans lingering in the back of your mind.
Before, during, and after the wedding is planned, be sure to always be in touch with your partner! The relationship you built together dating doesn’t stop when you’re married! Continue to have open dialogue, be sure to sit down with your partner for at least 15 minutes to talk about your day and stay connected. When you nurture your partner’s Love Languages and needs, it makes for a happy marriage for years to come. Plus, it helps to be on the same page when you’re planning such a big event that celebrates BOTH the bride and groom.
Once you’re married, it’s easy to take your spouse for granted. The work that goes into a relationship doesn’t stop once you’re married. Now that the ceremony is over, it’s important to keep the spark in your relationship alive so you can make every day feel like happy ever after.
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